Getting ready for the child custody evaluation can be very stressful. The evaluator’s opinion carries a lot of weight but ultimately, the judge makes the decision.

Your best strategy lies in preparation and knowing what to expect.

The evaluator’s point of view:

The evaluator, chosen by the court, is normally a psychologist but may also be a psychiatrist or a licensed clinical social worker.

From his/her point of view, the child’s interests and well being overrides all other considerations. Although both parents may have legitimate concerns, only those of the child matters. The evaluators job is to assess the developmental needs of the child and the parenting capacities of both parents. Then he/she makes the best fit.

Preparing for the child custody evaluation:

1.) First impressions – show up on time dressed conservatively.

2.) Have your list of references ready. These should be people that have absolutely no reservations about you taking custody. They should have already given their consent to act as a reference.

3.) Answer the questions truthfully. Your answers should be as direct and to the point as possible. Never attempt to embellish or exaggerate because the evaluator will either see though it or will discover the truth after contacting your references. Don’t do any confiding. It’s inappropriate and may be used against you.

4.) Don’t say anything negative about your ex. If the evaluator wants to know about anything negative, just cite specific incidents. Give the facts and let the evaluator arrive at his/her own conclusions. Focus on the needs of your children.

5.) Don’t ask your children to say negative things about your ex. Explain to them in simplified terms, the purpose of the evaluation.

6.) The evaluator may wish to see how you and your children interact. For this, any normal activities such as games, help with homework, or food is appropriate.

7.) Pay the evaluator’s fees promptly and do not attempt to call him unless he requests it. Get a good night’s sleep, and remember that it’s normal for both parents to get rights.