Never allow your divorce lawyer to take control over your case. Yes, he knows his stuff, he’s got lots of experience (assuming he’s a good lawyer), and he is an expert in family law.

Even so, your divorce lawyer should never be in charge of your case. You may be asking ‘if not him, then who?’

The person that has to take control and call the shots is you.

Here’s why:

1.) Your divorce lawyer is paid by the hour. He gets paid whether or not your divorce settlement is good or bad. He simply doesn’t have your intense desire to win.

2.) His motivation is to make money. It’s just a business to him. He only knows you in a professional sense. As a person, he could care less what happens to you. You are one out of hundreds of cases that he handles each year. The odds are good that he isn’t the sort that loses sleep over costing you more money than was really necessary.

3.) A divorce lawyer should be viewed as an instrument that you employ to achieve your ends. You are the boss and he’s your employee. Many people behave as if it’s the other way around.

Like an employee, he should be earning his pay every day. No one cares about or knows the facts about your case better than you.

4.) Set up a plan with specific goals that you want to achieve through the proper use of your divorce lawyer. If you don’t have a plan and let your lawyer take control, then he will execute his own plan which means spending his time as profitably as possible. His best interests and your best interests are not the same thing.

You can’t really hold that against him because everyone acts in their own best interests. It’s human nature.

In order to make effective use of your divorce lawyer, you’ll have to do your homework, educate yourself, and plan out exactly what you wish to accomplish. Once you’ve done this, it’s time to look for your lawyer.

Having a plan has the added side benefit of improving your selection of a lawyer in the first place. During your interview, you can make it known exactly what you expect of him. If you get any indication that he has a problem with this, you can quickly move on to interviewing the next candidate.

Little known divorce tactics and strategies – See Men’s Divorce Tactics.